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Slow Mum Slow Dad Game

A whole-conversation game where you deliberately speak at half your normal pace — slowing the rhythm of the family chat to model the unhurried speech that helps a child with disfluency.

Activity details

2y–4y10 minslowindoorNo prep

Instructions

Get ready
  • Pick a calm moment — over a snack, while playing with blocks, on the sofa.
  • Tell your child: 'We're going to play the slow voice game.'
  1. Pick a calm moment — over a snack, while playing with blocks, on the sofa.
  2. Tell your child: 'We're going to play the slow voice game.'
  3. Slow your own speech down to about half its normal pace. Not babyish, just unhurried.
  4. Add gentle pauses between sentences. Wait for your child to respond.
  5. Whatever they say, respond at the same slow pace.
  6. Don't correct any stutters or repetitions. Just keep the slow rhythm going.
  7. Make eye contact while you speak — your face matters as much as your voice.
  8. After ten minutes, end naturally and return to your normal pace. Use the slow game once a day.

Parent tip

Start before you overthink it. No-prep activities work best when you begin while the moment is still recoverable.

Parent and child sitting face-to-face laughing together in a warm shared moment

What success looks like

Back-and-forth between you — words, gestures, shared pretend. Connection is the real outcome here.

For ten minutes, you commit to speaking at half your normal pace — every word a little slower, every pause a little longer. Your child copies naturally because they pick up on the rhythm of the room. The slow pace doesn't feel like a correction or a lesson. It feels like a small game where the whole family suddenly becomes more careful and patient with their words. This is the single most evidence-backed thing a parent can do for early disfluency.

Why it helps

The NHS guidance on stammering is clear that fluency improves in environments where children feel relaxed and unhurried about talking. The Stuttering Foundation's core advice for parents is to 'speak with your child in an unhurried way, pausing frequently' — modelling slow speech is more effective than asking the child to slow down, because children naturally tune into the conversational rhythm of the adults around them rather than responding to direct instructions about how to speak.

Variations

  • Try it on a walk when the slower pace feels naturally matched to the slower walk.
  • Use a soft drum or wooden spoon tap to mark the pause between speakers.
  • Make it a whole-family game at dinner — everyone speaks slowly together for the meal.

Safety tips

  • Never imitate or correct your child's actual stutter — that introduces shame.
  • Keep your slow voice warm rather than mechanical; you're not a robot.
  • If your child seems aware of the game in a self-conscious way, drop the framing and just speak slowly without naming it.

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