Parent tip
Set out food colouring and spray bottle before inviting your toddler in so the first minute feels smooth.

Make a 'magic' monster-repelling spray together, giving your toddler a tool to feel brave at bedtime.
Set out food colouring and spray bottle before inviting your toddler in so the first minute feels smooth.

Messy hands and a child who doesn’t want to stop. The artwork doesn’t need to look like anything — the process is the point.
Fill a spray bottle with water, add a drop of lavender oil or a squirt of food colouring, and decorate it with stickers. Your toddler has made their very own 'monster spray' — a tool they control. Before bed, spray the corners of the room together: 'No monsters allowed!' This works because it gives toddlers agency over their fear rather than dismissing it. The ritual becomes part of the bedtime routine, offering predictability and a genuine sense of power.
Birth to 5 Matters identifies self-regulation as children's developing ability to regulate their emotions, thoughts and behaviour, noting that co-regulation — where adults model calming strategies — is the foundation from which children build this skill. Giving a child a concrete tool to 'fight' their fear activates the sense of self-efficacy — the belief that they can influence their environment. This is far more effective than reassurance ('there are no monsters') because it respects the child's reality rather than dismissing it. The ritual element builds procedural memory, making bedtime feel predictable and controlled. Lavender, if used, has evidence-based mild anxiolytic properties that support physiological calming. The EYFS Personal, Social and Emotional Development goals identify self-regulation as a key milestone — and calm, playful practice is how children get there.
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