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Teddy Has An Accident

Teddy 'has an accident' on the floor and your child helps clean it up gently — normalising mistakes and removing the shame that drives potty resistance.

Activity details

2y–4y10 minslowindoorSpongesStuffed Animals

Instructions

Get ready
  • Set up the play area with teddy, a wipeable mat, and a small cloth.
  • Splash a little water on the mat near teddy. 'Oh dear — teddy had an accident!'
  1. Set up the play area with teddy, a wipeable mat, and a small cloth.
  2. Splash a little water on the mat near teddy. 'Oh dear — teddy had an accident!'
  3. Show your child teddy's expression: 'Teddy looks a bit sad. Accidents happen.'
  4. Hand your child the cloth. 'Let's help teddy clean it up.'
  5. Together, dab the water with the cloth. 'It's okay teddy. We can clean this up.'
  6. Once it's clean, give teddy a gentle hug. 'Next time we'll try to get to the potty in time.'
  7. Give your child a warm look: 'Accidents happen to everyone. They're part of learning.'
  8. End with a fresh smile: 'Teddy is all clean now. Let's play.'

Parent tip

Set out sponges and stuffed animals before inviting your toddler in so the first minute feels smooth.

Parent and child sitting face-to-face laughing together in a warm shared moment

What success looks like

Back-and-forth between you — words, gestures, shared pretend. Connection is the real outcome here.

Set up a scenario where teddy 'has an accident' on a wipeable mat — you splash a small amount of water on the floor and explain that teddy didn't quite make it to the potty in time. Together, you and your toddler help teddy clean up calmly. No drama, no shame, just practical care. This rehearses the response your toddler will need when their own accidents happen, so they don't experience the real moment as disaster — it's just what happens sometimes.

Why it helps

ERIC's potty training guidance is very clear: when your child has an accident, clean it up together and remind them to use the potty next time, but do not shame or punish, as stress and upset can make it harder to learn together. AAP HealthyChildren takes the same line: there is no cause to criticise or punish a child for accidents, and shame is one of the strongest predictors of regression. Rehearsing the cleanup with teddy lets your toddler experience the no-shame response in advance, which makes the real version feel survivable.

Variations

  • Have your child take teddy to the potty afterwards as the 'next time' practice.
  • Use a doll or another favourite soft toy if teddy isn't your child's special one.
  • If your own toddler has just had a real accident, do this scenario the next morning to defuse the memory.

Safety tips

  • Use plain water for the pretend accident — never add any colouring or anything that could stain.
  • Keep the cleanup gentle and brief; long fussing makes the moment feel like a big deal.
  • Don't recreate this scenario after a real accident on the same day — give your child space first.

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